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I was just talking to my friend, and suddenly the topic on BGR comes up... And it really got me thinking...

You see around you. It is like everywhere. Like, for instance, after lunch today and I got up the bus home and saw 2 couples still in their school uniform. And no I'm not grossed out about it but yet...

What causes BGR? Well, it is some hormonal stuff that I don't understand. Yeah, of course everyone experiences the hormonal raging thingy. Me included. But the next question that comes up is... What is the next step, when you know that you are infatuated with someone? There are a couple of options:

1. Keep it under guard (aka do not let your hormones take control of you)
2. Tell your parents, or anyone you trust.
3. Go on and let the hormone control you.

By the way,
INFATUATION (noun)
1. The state of being infatuated
2. The act of infatuating
3. an all-absorbing passion for someone

Teenagers. We are like transiting from children to adult. Therefore we think differently. Teenagers are more rash in decisions while adults will stop and think about their decisions, if it would affect their lives (in a good way or a bad way). Teenagers like to do stuff adults do not generally approve of... like pornography for example. We just love to piss the adults off.

All teenagers experience infatuation. A number heads the path titled, "Talk to your parents about it" while others heads to the path titled, "BGR". There are, of course, some who takes the path of "Not telling anyone".

I am not saying the "BGR" path is sick and wrong or whatever. We are in a free country and one cannot judge the other unless he or she is proven to be more expreienced in whatsoever subject one is judging the other about. But what causes teenagers to take the BGR path? Well, there are many reasons, but here are a few

1. Peer pressure
2. For the fun of it
and many others which I'm not sure about yet.

Peer pressure. People comes to show off in your face that they got a girlfriend/boyfriend, and us being in a very competitive world, would want to be the same or even do better. So we would go hook someone up as well as your boyfriend/girlfriend. Well, will we benefit from it? Yes, there is companionship and stuff. I think its more of a personal soul-searching.

Am I ready for this? Am I responsible enough to take responsibility for anything that may happen? Will I even approve of it? Will my parents approve it? Am I doing this just because my friends asked me to?
and etc.

Now TV has such a big influence in our lives. Some of us cannot even handle one day without TV at all. Hollywood is super good in creating sex scenes or references in movies. A lot of shows, movies etc. are showing BGR in it. And a lot of us who watch TV gets influenced heavily by it. Like, for example, my old classmate (in Primary 6) thought that the F-word was normal because he watched the movie "Robocop" where the F-word is mentioned in every few sentences. So, teenagers who get involved in BGR sometimes think it is normal, because it is shown on TV, and the usual mindset for us teenagers is: 'Whatever that is shown on TV must be true and ok, because if it is not, the government will put a stop to it.'

Well, here is what God says:

"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think of such things." Philippians 3:8

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline. Listen, my son, to your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching." Proverbs 1:7-8

"If any of you lack wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him." James 1:5

BGR is not wrong, but BGR may lead to pre-marital sex, which is wrong. A lot of problems will arise from pre-marital sex and, trust me, the problems really sucks. Parents are there to guide you and help you along your way. Listen to them. Although they are quite naggy sometimes, but parents have experienced this kind of stuff before. If you do not believe me, then take this example.

You just entered the army and you don't know how to even hold a rifle. Would you learn from your comrade, who is also as clueless as you, or would you go to your naggy sergeant, who had experienced shooting before?

That's about all I got to share... Thanks for staying through the entire post.

Note: My parents were my guide for this post.