(P.S All content below are my thoughts and opinions and not hard facts. Forgive the spelling mistakes below.. thanks! You can find the same post on my Facebook account. (I still have no idea why I actually joined Facebook...))

What's with emo people? Is it really so fun and stuff to be emo? To wonder and think of the ways of the world and how it actually causes them more harm?

It just makes me wonder... what are the topics that cause people (mainly teenagers) to be emo?

1. Relationship problems
I suppose now teenagers, with raging hormones, will look out for anyone from the opposite sex. Good looking ones, pretty/handsome ones (if you are looking for both "qualities" something might be wrong with you), smart ones, buff ones (for females looking for males)... anyone in fact. There is no definite rubrics for the type that teenagers usually go for.

Take myself for example. I look out for ________, ___________ and ____________ types.
You know the feeling, sometimes unconsciously you would just stare at that person and let your gaze linger on her/him. (I'm guilty of that too... hehe) However, (for myself) recently I started to step back and view the big picture. Instead of looking out for EXTERIOR traits, I guess the INTERNAL traits are better and more important. For example, would you be with someone hot, but only think for himself/herself? Or would you rather be with someone that does not really have the "shuai" or "sexy" looks but spares thoughts for others?

2. Peer Pressure/ Identity Crisis
We, teenagers, are at an age that our minds are in a transtition period from child to adult. So during this period, our thinking is slightly warped. So, being adoloscences, we would want to be seen and feel belonged to a group of friends. Teenagers fear ostricisation and the feeling of inferiority and insecurity. So what do we do? Look out for groups of friends that we think we would fit in and try to join them... Talk like them, be with them for anything they do, monkey see monkey do etc. Knowing this, some cunning teenager might be able to exploit you. Example, if they know that you desperately wants to join them, they would ask you to do ridiculous things like buying food for them, steal something from a store etc.

Not saying that all groups of friends are bad (I know of some people that really wants to be friends with you), but think about it. Why join a group of friends that bullies you? Why join people that are so heartless and ask you to do any kind of rubbish for them? Is it really worth it to be accepted into a clique, but the price you pay is your values, principles and integrity?

3. Inferiority Complex
Teenagers are sometimes insecure (yes, myself too...) and they let their minds wonder. A lot of crazy thoughts and weird thinking just enters your mind. Circumstances also hit us really hard. For example, if you find out that you failed almost all of your subjects, your mind will start to think of really morbid stuff. You will start to ask yourself questions and soon the insecurity will just set in. Not just studies, even relationship problems, peers and clique issues and even your image. These topics are able to totally unseat you and cause you to be anxious and worried.

Some questions you might ask yourself or some things you might tell yourself: (I know. I told myself these for the past four years)
- I am so stupid. What is the point of studying if I keep failing?
- Everyone else passed the test but I am the only one that failed. I'm retarded!
- I don't have looks like ___________. I am so ugly and disgusting.
- I wish I was not "weird".
- Why am I such an outcast? Am I even human?
- This girl/guy refuses to talk to me or even reply when I wave at her/him. What does this mean? Am I really that bad?
- I think I am really ugly and sick-looking, with droopy arms and such an idiotic and disgusting face. I also want to puke at the sight of my own face! No wonder she/he does not like me.
and etc.

I guess the point I want to drive at is that now being teenagers is a rather tough and scary period. Even so, you must guard yourself against "emo-ness" because this feeling will really kill you in the long run. Being emo will really alienate you from society and if not kept in check, you will injure yourself and ultimately, you might commit suicide.

Honestly, I never told this to anyone yet... on second thought... never mind.

Being emo sucks. It's not cool. What is the point to be emo and sulk all day instead of looking at the wonderful day that God gave us? What is the point of trying to seek attention when some people already appreciate you for who you are?

Remember to smile!=D

"A smile a day will keep the emo monster away."

Labels: Emotional